REMEMBERING RAY TYE

My husband, Ray Tye, died as he lived – in peace and with great dignity. I held him in my arms as he took his final breath on this earth and I will hold him in my heart and in my memories forever. He will carry me forward with the firm purpose of continuing his legacy.

You will read in this newsletter about the immense impact Ray had on the world, and I would like to tell you, additionally, a little about our marriage that was characterized by happiness and many blessings. Great love stories have been written in novels throughout the centuries, but none has surpassed the majesty of what Ray and I lived privately on a daily basis.  To simply say our lives were blissful would tell only a fraction of the truth; it would be impossible to adequately describe the loving partnership we shared on so many levels.

We relished every moment spent together and spoke often about how lucky we were. The words “I love you” were spoken freely and often, and for us those words were rich with significance. We held dear a prayer that we said together daily to guide our married life and bring focus to what is important between two people committed to a purposeful life together. I can vouch for its power and I would like to share it with you:

Keep us, O Lord, from pettiness. Let us be thoughtful in word and deed. Help us to put away pretense and face each other in deep trust without fear or self pity. Help us to guard against fault-finding; let us be quick to discover the best in each other and in every situation. Guard us from ill temper and hasty judgement; encourage us to take time for all things; to grow calm, serene and gentle.  Help us to be generous with kind words and compliments.  Teach us never to ignore, never to hurt, never to take each other for granted.  Engrave charity and compassion on our hearts.

My husband was a man who adored ritual, celebration and tradition.  He found such joy in helping to prepare for gatherings. He loved to set the table, polish the wine glasses and help with the dishes. He was all about being together and cherishing happy moments. As a man he was gentle, understanding and always affectionate; he was infinitely supportive. He was soft spoken (except while watching the Red Sox) and looked forward to small pleasures like a bowl of popcorn or a glass of freshly-squeezed juice. It was so easy to make him happy.

We humans strive for perfection but find its grasp illusive. Few among us reach the height of its calling, but I can tell you as Ray’s wife—his most intimate companion—that he attained a pinnacle of that great virtue, inspiring us to follow his lead in our dealings with the people we meet in this journey called life.

Let me assure you that the work of The Ray Tye Medical Aid Foundation will continue with the same spirit, the same vigor and the same compassion it had during my husband’s lifetime. He remains our guiding spirit; he was truly a light upon this earth and now shines on us from his eternal home. As hard as it is without him, we will move onward as Ray would have wished.

MAY GOD BLESS YOU.

Eileen Tye

Please CONSIDER MAKING A DONATION to the Ray Tye Medical Aid Foundation to help us continue our work.

8 Responses to “REMEMBERING RAY TYE”

  1. DEAR MRS. TYE, IT WAS A PLEASURE TO MEET YOUR HUSBAND A FEW YEARS AGO. HE WAS AN AMAZING MAN AND VERY KIND TO GIVE US TIME. I BROUGHT A GIRL FROM BANGLADESH TO HAVE VALVE SURGERY AT CAPE COD HOSPITAL BECAUSE MR. TYE DONATED FUNDS TO HELP WITH THE SURGICAL COSTS.
    “SUMA” HAS MARRIED SINCE THEN AND IS CARRYING ON LIFE IN A MUCH MORE HEALTHY STATE THANKS TO THE SURGERY.
    YOU WERE BLESSED TO HAVE SUCH A WONDERFUL HUSBAND, AND I HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL. IT MUST BE VERY HARD TO LOOSE SOMEONE SO DEAR.
    GOD BLESS, JANE BROOKS

  2. Dear Mrs. Tye,

    I never had the opportunity to meet your husband but I will be forever grateful to him. In 2005, he provided financial assistance for a 4 year old boy from Honduras, Noel, to have open heart surgery in a Boston hospital. Noel has since became my god son and a major part of my life. He is currently enrolled in a bilingual school in Comayagua, Honduras and is fluent english. I can’t imagine not having Noel in my life, which is why I’d like to thank both Mr. Tye and yourself for carrying on the wonderful work your foundation does.

    Rick Lania

  3. I am the great nephew of Morris and Mildred Burg. I remember with nostalgia and love how Ray ran the Pesach (Passover) Sedurim (Seders) when I was a lad. He took over after my Uncle Morris passed. Ray was a firm yet gentle leader. He read from the Hagaddah and directed everyone else in the telling of our historic exodus from the land of Egypt. His family was very young then, and since there were four to five children, plus myself, we could be a bit unruly, despite the traditional commandment to have four glasses of wine during the meal!
    Today I am in my sixties, but thought retired from teaching Art, I am still going strong. I paint murals in Chicago-schools, synagogues and now I have been asked to paint a mural in Chicago Children’s Memorial Hospital, where a new complex is now under construction; My mural will be conceived by myself, the children patients, doctors and hospital staff. We will paint it inside the holding room, where the children wait to go into surgery. This is a great mitzvah for (a Blessing-Good Deed) for me.
    I am an altruist, and perhaps my activities over the past thirty plus years were inspired by Uncle Morris and Ray Tye. Who knows?

  4. It is so nice to know that there is still good people in the world today. So many days my wife and I wonder as our son has been in the hospital struggling for his life for the past year and two months, he suffers from cerebrial pulsey and seziure disorders and just a year ago had to have a feeding tube put in which his body is refusing. We lost his brother 2.5 years ago and now we put everything we have into Daniel. Again i want to say its soo nice knowing that there are people such as yourself helping us out. All our love and support goes out to all who struggle. God Bless !

  5. I am Ella Patricia’s mom, the 7 year old girl from the Philippines who benefited for a free open heart surgery in Tufts New England Medical Center. I am so sorry but I wasnt able to thank you personnaly during our 3 months stay in New England. Ella was operated last December of 2006 and now, she’s 11 and growing healthy and pretty. Thanks to all of you for all the help you have extended to our Ella and to our family.

  6. I am very touched by the message of Eileen Tye. God bless the memory of your husband, Mrs. Tye and God bless your carrying on of his giving. Thank you for your anticipated response to my request, as i have explored, requested, investigated as many avenues as i can think of and have not experienced success in finding what i need.

  7. christine Sweat February 18, 2013 at 3:44 am Reply

    Dear Ms Tye,
    I am crying as I read your prayer and others responses. I am not sure of my worthyness, but I have two brothers and one sister older than myself that have extreme difficulty walking. I am 56 years old. I have felt guilty all my life just because I can walk and they cannot. I have spent my life trying to help take care of them. My health has gone down and I am finding it very difficult to do a very good job helpcareing for them. They all three need help I am not sure if trhey can be helped at there age. I only pray that they can. My oldest brother has not stood up for 30 years. Please help us if you can.
    thank you,
    Christine

  8. Susan Setterland June 7, 2013 at 1:13 pm Reply

    I was honored to have met Mr. Tye one day at his office in Braintree in the 1990’s. He had contacted me at the financial institution where I worked because he had read a story in our local paper about a young boy with cancer that needed surgery. His compassion for others and the assistance he gave to “David” will always be remembered.
    Mr. Tye was a true gentleman with a huge heart and willingness to help those he did not even know. I have recently passed on your medical foundation information to someone in need.
    To continue Mr. Tye’s work through the spirit of giving with this foundation is wonderful. May the memories live on. God Bless.

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PRESIDENT, Eileen Tye
VICE PRESIDENT, Terri Carlson
CUSTODIAN OF FUNDS, Bank of America